ABOUT ME
Hello!
I'm Nathan.
About 9 years ago, I also experienced a pretty tough, devastating divorce that shattered the deepest core of my being. I'll also share that through nearly 5 decades of my life, I've personally lived with what some might label as persistent depressive episodes (formerly known as dysthymia) and generalized anxiety.
Like many of us, I've also experienced significant losses, including the death of my lovely mother in 2005.
Divorce is
Not fun.
When I write it out like that, it feels like a huge understatement. I experienced betrayals, endings and the kind of deep grief that I just don't have adequate words for. Whether I avoided or held on to resentment, I realized that clinging to my grudges made everything sadder and healing much slower. That's why I chose a different path that taught me three things: the power of self-compassion, the wisdom of releasing resentment (when ready to do so), and purpose of patience towards the unpredictable timeline of my healing.
Let's be kind
to ourselves.
Despite my own challenges, I've learned how being kind to myself can fuel powerful, deep healing. I confess that self-compassion isn't the easiest thing for me to practice. But when I let myself receive kindness, I always find it incredibly transformative.
You've got this.
During my own separation and divorce, I definitely had a crash course in applying my own professional counselling psychology training to my own feelings.
If you wish, I'd be glad to help you discover for yourself what helps you with your own feelings.
I've been able to do some incredible work with others, and in my own mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing.
my own challenges.
So I do have some specialized training. my full bio is below if you need to see what those fancypants credentials are!).
The Credentials
My Background
Dr. Nathan To is a Canadian Certified Clinical Counsellor who has dedicated 3 interdisciplinary psychology degrees and devoted nearly 10 years of his life researching intergenerational trauma, grief, and our human capacity for grit and resilience--not just how we survive our painful losses, but how we thrive, create, and transform our lives on a new path.
His PhD (Goldsmiths, University of London) explored how societal culture, popular media and our family histories may influence and impact our mental wellness, emotional wellbeing and identity formation across generations.
Through the serious and urgent dialogues around mental health, Nathan speaks with words infused with hope, seasoned with practical and useful wisdom, earnest candor, and occasional flavourings of his own quirky humour and eternal love of cats.
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